I hate waiting rooms.
Even virtual ones.
Those few minutes before the meeting, the exam, the important zoom call.
It’s at that point that I realise it’s too late to prepare any more and I sit worrying if I’ve done enough.
If I’m ready enough.
If I’m good enough.
How will people respond to me?
Will they like me?
Will I do well?
Even trivial things: did I drink enough water?
Is my voice going to sound weird?
Am I wearing the right clothes?
Did I forget to brush my hair again? 😂
And I end up in a nervous spiral.
If you’re anything like me you’ll know what I’m talking about. This feeling is as familiar as it is unpleasant. It seems inevitable. When we feel stressed we can’t think clearly and our brains respond automatically. We drop into this anxious pattern, we lose control.
But it doesn’t need to be this way. We can change our patterns so when we’re in these situations our “automatic” state is calm, not nervous.
Our ability to perform under pressure, and our ability to use different languages is affected by our emotions, which are affected by our mindset.
And while we can’t change our emotions, we can change our mindset and the stories we tell ourselves.
How would it feel if you could change your waiting room mindset? 🏝️🧘♀️
If you’re interested in how you can change your mindset around speaking in English to something more positive so you can communicate calmly and with confidence, I have a free workshop available that will be released this week.